Stress Management ( 3rd part )

Relationship of Love with Stress
Is where we feel the changes in ourselves that can affect the system inside or outside of our bodies. Both changes are conscious or unconscious changes, reaction - a reaction that appears when we fall in love as well as or nearly the same when we experience stress. Like:

• Response muscles : When we expression (smiling, laughing, sad, happy, surprised, etc..) Muscles - the muscles in our faces to work and move in accordance with the expression of what we feel. At the moment we fall in love, an expression that is more often used is smiling and happy.
• Response from the heart : Felt at the time we feel the heart degub faster on s semkin aat we meet or face to face with our partners. 
• Response from the skin : Skin or pores - pores is one in which the media propagated pheromones. Besides the skin also produces liquid sweat. Sometimes we feel nervous and nervous when we meet with our potential partner. This hormone stimulates the feeling of sweat glands to produce sweat. (Girdano, L A. 2005).
  

In addition to biological changes or on our bodies, there are also changes in diet and rest. "Helen Fisher studies and friends, when someone looked at her lover, will stimulate the dopamine ventral tegmental and caudate nucleus in the brain lit up. In the right doses, dopamine creates the power, excitement, focused attention, and a strong urge to give rewards. That's why falling in love can make bad eating, sleeping rough ".
In the same article, other researchers showed that the body's chemical interference was evident when a person falls in love. For example it was found that serotonin levels of people who are obsessed and her boyfriend 40 percent lower than normal levels of serotonin.

Srotonin is very important hormone in brain development. Low levels of this hormone is usually associated with aggressive behavior, impulsivity and suicide. (KOMPAS, Kamis, 17 Januari 2008 | 10:26 WIB ). In addition, stress also cause emotional control is difficult and also causes less aware of ourselves with the environment around us. We become less sensitive to what is happening around us, the word was 'flowery', feelings that arise spontaneously we can not avoid or we protested. That is the feeling there are times where we are always thinking, imagining, and even talked about diri'nya 'to each person we meet. So what should we do?

So, "fell in love's stress symptoms" so I call it. Should not be avoided and not too enjoyable, but in the governance and optimal dimanage the right way. Like stress, we must strive to optimize the so-called stress-coping strategy. Lots of ways to manage stress, it's just that we do not know how true, accurate, and useful in its implementation. The simplest is the breathing and relaxation, this method should be used where the moment we feel we are experiencing respiratory heart rate due to changes that began when beating fast or going to see her. latihan dibagi menjadi tiga step: exercise is divided into three step:

•  Breathing down
Determine a comfortable body position, breathing slowly, no rush - time and imagine something that is calming, hold the breath for a moment and tell myself this let yourself calm, and slowly remove the air from the nose.

•  Control the tempo of breathing
Put your finger on the pulse in his hand, then slowly breathe, look and feel the pulse in his hand. After that specify the number count for each draw breath, hold your breath, and throw it away.

•   Breath counting Breath counting
Proceed as controlling the tempo of breathing plus we say in my heart "... pull away ... pull ... pull away ..." and do it, constantly. Perform ten count at each stepnya. If done correctly, feelings of anxiety and strong heartbeat is expected to be back to normal. The third way of breathing should be done when we feel tired or want to calm the heart beating fast (Girdano, L A. 2005).

In addition to breathing exercises, the other alternative is that we exercise. Why? With exercise we can feel the change in terms of psychological and physical. We are a fresh look and radiate a positive enegi, so that we become comfortable for ourselves, we can control our emotions and feelings. The important thing is that we have to think positive about ourselves (self-esteem is high) and others. At which time we talked, we looked into his eyes and using assertive language and does not look confused.

And the last way is to rest and keep eating as well as nutrients. We know from the above that when we fall in love, our eating patterns change, perhaps the change we must follow, but let us not dissolved in it. With positive and clear thinking, we can discern between what happiness is useful or harmful. With stress, what it was cracked stressor or stress, what reaction we feel, and how we can optimize stress with coping strategy that we knew before . Perceived stress, so we can manage and control in accordance with the levels or the capacity of our psychological and psychic.

Conclusion of love and stress
Falling in love and stress a relationship. Falling in love is one source of stress with all the symptoms (positive and negative sides). Stress is not to be avoided but managed and optimized in a way and the right time. In essence, falling in love is fun when we get to know the meaning, effect, explanation, and meaning. Welcome to enjoy the arrival of love.

All life is an experiment. 

The more experiments you make the better.
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